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8 great places for the solo female traveler

Views over Machu PicchuView over Machu Picchu

I am a seasoned solo traveler, and I am immensely proud of this! Perhaps now, it’s less uncommon as it was several years ago, and my heart is full seeing other women embrace the experience of traveling alone. There is something liberating about exploring new places on your own schedule, trying new dishes and sipping a local beverage (Party of 1, what it do?) and the unknown of who you may meet.

Many women worry that traveling alone can be boring, unsafe or they just don’t really know what to do with themselves. I’m here to tell you that you have nothing to worry about, and that a solo adventure will teach you quite a bit about yourself. Here are some GREAT destinations you can try on your own, based on my experience.

1. Dubrovnik or Split, Croatia:

Brela, Croatia

Dubrovnik was actually my first solo trip while living in Russia. Croatia is a tremendously beautiful country, largely overshadowed by its Mediterranean neighbors like Greece and Italy. You can take day trips to islands from Split such as Brac or Hvar, or you can check out stunning Montenegro (Kotor Bay is really nice), or you can explore the medieval old towns in white limestone. Try some burek and crni rizot (black risotto). Learn some history about former Yugoslavia, which has shaped what Croatia is today. People are very nice, but beware going in the peak of summer, where every beach is super crowded with families and kids.

2. Santorini, Greece

Sunsets in Oia, Santorini

Don’t let anyone tell you Santorini is a honeymoon destination. I went alone and LOVED it, and I wasn’t on any honeymoon. In fact, I went in early May before the hoards of tourists arrived for summer, the weather was a bit chilly at night but hot enough during the day to soak up some sunshine. Price-wise, Santorini is not cheap, but if you go during the shoulder seasons, you can get some great deals on places that would otherwise cost an arm and a leg. I stayed in Oia, the picturesque village on the north end of the island with Instagram-worthy views. I did a day trip sailing throughout the caldera, swam in hot springs and enjoyed a fun lunch on board, where I met an amazing couple I still keep in touch with. For my fit vacay folks, you can hike from Oia to Imerovigli in several hours of hours, then take a bus to the volcanic beaches on the south side of the island. And Greek food and Santorini wines? DELICIOUS!

3. Jaipur, India

Jal Mahal, Jaipur

Okay, so India may have stolen a HUGE chunk of my heart, and going there alone engulfed me in so many emotions that I will never forget the experience. Its dirty streets cleansed my heart, ironically, at the risk of sounding completely cheesy. Indians are some of the kindest and most humble people I’ve met. I went in March, and I did a 4-day tour of the Golden Triangle with a private driver and tour, where you see New Delhi, Agra and Jaipur. While the Taj Mahal in Agra is a sight to behold and a must visit, Jaipur wins for a place for solo travel. Known as the pink city, the buildings do, in fact, shine in a salmon hues. Be sure to visit the Amer, or Amber fort, ride up by elephant if possible (a tourist cliche, but I was told their treatment is humane, before you judge me for exploiting animal rides!), and take in the majestic mountains of Rajastan. Check out the Man Sagar Lake with the Jal Mahal palace standing erect among its placid water.

4. Cusco, Peru

The Sacred Valley of Peru

Cusco is so much more than the Machu Picchu starting point. The culture, food and richness of the the architectural ruins throughout the region, nestled among the soaring Andes Mountains, is something everyone should witness. Despite how cold Cusco was when I went in September, the warmth I felt with the host family I stayed with still touches me today. I did a few day trips, including to Rainbow Mountain, Maras, Chinchero, Moray and Ollantaytambo. There are plenty of buses that go to each destinations, or you can opt for a private transfer, arranged through your accommodation. Treat yourself to a Pisco Sour after a day of hiking and exploring, plus some alpaca (to wear and eat!). It’s a lovely city filled with tons of other solo travelers, ones you’re sure to meet and befriend.

5. El Nido, Palawan, Philippines

Island hopping, El Nido, Palawan

I first went to the Philippines with my best friends for one of their weddings, and I knew I had to come back to explore more of this incredible country and its thousands of islands. El Nido, Palawan, is paradise on earth, very cheap, and beaches will transform your last ounce of stress  into pure relaxation. I came alone, but almost immediately I met really cool, new friends that I went island hopping with and partied until dawn. You can scuba dive, explore nearby islands, snorkel, sunbathe, kayak, hike – you name it. Palawan has it all! Try some lechon (a giant Filipino pig, literally) and pancit for some local flavoring. Note: the south part of the island can be quite dangerous for tourists, so I am recommending to stay in El Nido. Also, flying directly into El Nido from Manila is much more worth it than flying into Puerto Princesa and taking a 7-hour nauseating van ride.

6. Cape Town, South Africa

Lions Head, Cape Town

I was pleasantly surprised with how incredible and affordable Cape Town was, despite all the warnings I had heard about the dangers in South Africa. Granted, I stayed in nice, safe neighborhoods and away from any crime zones, but I don’t think I looked over my shoulder in fear once. There’s a rich and complex recent history to South Africa that has shaped its diverse culture, but everyone I met was very friendly and helpful. The beaches in Camps Bay are as picturesque as they come, with the Twelve Apostles of Table Mountain looming in the background. Check out hikes to Table Mountain and Lions Head for rewarding views of the land and sea, check out Robben Island to relive Nelson Mandela’s 27-year prison sentence, lounge with penguins in Boulders Beach, sip the country’s best wines in Stellenbosch, take in the magnificent view on Chapman’s Peak, and, of course, hike the southwestern most tip of the African continent at the Cape of Good Hope. Oh, and if you’re really feeling brave, why not go cage diving with great white sharks?

7. Rio de Janeiro, Brazil

Beijos from Rio

Get ready for a colorful, artistic and musical experience when in Rio. You won’t feel lonely for a second! In fact, after taking a very interesting walking tour of the Rocinha Favela (which I highly recommend), I met very cool new friends with whom I explored the rest of Rio for several days. Stay in Copacabana beach, walk through the iconic Ipanema beach (preferably while listening to “The Girl from Ipanema”), hike through the Tijuca forest, see the EXTREMELY crowded Corcovado Mountain with Jesus looming over the city, and explore the colorful, multicultural Escadaria Selarón. Be sure to try the many flavors of caipirinhas, the heavy typical dish Feijoada, and if you have a sweet tooth, Brigadeiros are to die for! Plenty of rich and fun nightlife in Rio de Janeiro – but of course samba music is what you should catch while in this fantastic city. Note: not all parts of Rio are safe, so I don’t recommend wearing anything too ostentatious while out, especially alone.

8. Tel Aviv, Israel

Relaxing in Rabin Square, Tel Aviv

Forget about everything you’ve heard from the media about Israel. It is hands-down one of the safest places I’ve ever been to in my life. Next, the people are the most vivacious and assertive you’ll encounter – with an obvious history and conflicts that have formed the attitudes and ideals of the Jewish State. Politics aside, I have been to Israel six times, and each time I fell in love with Tel Aviv more and more. Try some yummy Shakshuka for breakfast, relax or play Matkot on the long stretch of Mediterranean coast with extremely clear water, or take a day trip to Jerusalem for some spiritual enrichment (or just to explore a new city, whatever floats your boat!). Let me tell you: solo female travelers won’t stay solo for long here. Between the hoards of extremely attractive men who will be vying for your attention and the super friendly groups who are always welcoming to strangers, especially if you are alone and don’t a place to have Shabbat dinner, you will quickly feel a sense of family here. A remarkable place, where the nightlife rages 7 days a week!

 

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Bagan: Sunrise or Sunset?

While I was in Myanmar for two weeks, I heard Bagan was the crown jewel of the country – with over 2,000 Buddhist temples still standing today from an impressive original 10,000. The landscape, a mix of lush green trees and dirt roads over a flat horizon, boasts a plentiful amount of these ancient brick temples as far as the eye can see. Sometimes a mist shrouds the surface, or clouds create impressive contrasts with the sunlight. Nonetheless, I decided to check out the hype of these frequently Instagrammed shots of a sunrise in this mystic ancient city with hot air balloons all around.

As we went in April 2018, one important thing to note was we could not officially climb up temples to claim the BEST spot for sunrise/sunset, high enough to see the other temples but not too high from the ground. Myanmar decided to ban climbing on temples (again). Officially. But we asked locals who agreed to take us to the few temples that people could still climb and weren’t guarded. So we did this for a sunrise at Ta Wet Hpaya, which as of April 2018 was open for secret sunrise viewing.

Good news, it was indeed a beautiful spot to watch the sunrise. Bad news, we weren’t the only ones who learned about this ‘secret’ temple, so there were quite a few of us up there catching the most distinct part of Bagan sunrises: the hot air balloons!

While we didn’t have the clearest day to watch a super sunrise, we ‘got the gist’ of it. We arrived around 5:45 am while it was still dark out, climbed up the stairs to the roof of the temple, waited for the balloons to float out and for the sun to rise. The balloons came out very slowly out of a corner in the horizon around 6:45 am or so. I’ll say this, on a clearer day, I bet it would have been much more beautiful, and the colors would have swirled against that cotton candy pink and blue backdrop into a scorching ball of yellow fire on the horizon. It was a nice experience, but we decided that would be our only sunrise in Bagan, as the weather and cloud cover was supposed to be about the same for the other days. Bottom line: WORTH IT, IF you find a temple to safely climb and you have luck with a clear day. It’s a memorable experience, and I hope Myanmar revisits their ‘no temple climbing’ policy soon!

Sunset is a different story. Since the temples are officially closed for climbing, the Burmese authorities have attempted to narrow the spots to watch the sunset to two manmade hills where they actually check if you’ve paid the 25,000 Kyat pass to access all the temples. Guess what? We actually didn’t know this, and no one told us about this ticket in advance, so we never bought one. In the end, we got to catch a sunset on one of the hills for zero Kyat, as we convinced them that we left our ticket at home. Oops and yay!

Here, it was way more crowded than sunrise, because like I mentioned it’s a hot spot and one of the few ways to officially watch the sunset, plus it has a controlled entrance. So to get a nice spot in peace without people on the way is harder. Yet again, we did not have the clearest day for a sunset, so we took our pics and enjoyed the weather cooling down after a very hot day. Bottom line: WORTH IT to see sunset from the hill. Just buy your temple passes in advanced.

Lastly, or should I say firstly, we checked out the Nan Myint tower on our first sunset tour, which logically seemed like the highest, ergo best place to see the sunset. Alas, no, it was not and for multiple reasons. Firstly, it is too high up – and remember when I mentioned you don’t need a bird’s eye view, just to be slightly higher than one or two stories up? From the tower, the horizon doesn’t look as impressive. Then, reason 2, it is quite far from the densely populated temple area, which is the gem you want to capture in photos. And lastly, it’s not free. You have to pay an entrance of about US$5, and if you’re thirsty or hungry, the restaurant (with a lovely view) is available for a pretty penny. As such, the bottom line for this: NOT WORTH IT, but if you have an excellent camera lens, you may get some nice zoomed shots.

I think ultimately that sunrises are the most impressive in Bagan, although they depend on whether you can find a temple to climb with fewer people and cooperative weather.

What do you prefer: sunrise or sunset?

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How I quit my job and backpacked the world

IMG_7975Backpacking ready

So, let me begin by saying that there’s not really a magical recipe for quitting your job and traveling for a while. Many will fantasize and ponder of doing so, but few will take action. It’s not for everyone (or, not everyone can afford to do so, due to family obligations, money constraints, or they aren’t ready to part with their job for so long). I will say that circumstances tend to gravitate toward one outcome, even one that may surprise you. Traveling is a great excuse to do what you want and take control of your experiences. Up until a certain point, I as always told what to do, what to study, what career to pursue, what security to aim for, what kind of guys to date even! As much as I appreciate sound advice, there comes a time when you just scream STOP! to all the outside noise and try to make a decision for yourself based on your own rationalizations.

When life presents you with a junction, you pick a road to take. Not to get all Robert Frost on you, but I took what I believed was the road less traveled by (ironically, the traveling road) when I decided to travel for a while. I hung up my 8-year corporate badge and the career identity I was convinced defined me for so long, and within one week, I was on a one-way flight to Peru with no further plans or ideas of what to do with myself. I didn’t think about money or what to do after I might finish. I had hastily packed my shit into a new Osprey backpack, thinking “So this makes me a backpacker, right?” No, it turns out a backpacker is more of a mentality than a physical pack. All I knew was that I wanted to see Machu Picchu, and the rest would fall into place.

As for traveling alone, nothing felt more natural. Look, I’m an extrovert, in a committed relationship (long distance at the time), love being social and making friends, but traveling alone is a really cool experience. You’re alone but not lonely. It warms my heart to see so many women of all ages choosing to travel on their own, even if just one trip – we’re not only taking power into our own hands, but we are breaking this stupid societal norm that a woman traveling alone is odd, lonely or dangerous.

For those who think that traveling always requires planning in advance, I challenge you that it’s not always the case. With internet at our fingertips, the planning can happen within minutes, instead of months. Granted, some things I did miss because tickets were sold out in advance of when I was going, or airfare at the last minute wasn’t the most affordable. I never really let that discourage me though. If something is sold out in advance, that’s usually an indicator that it is very touristy and crowded. The chance to breathe a new country’s air and witness their landscape is good enough for me; there’s plenty of off-the-beaten-path place you can discover, you just have to ask the locals.

“But income,” you might say, or “career growth!” “How can you leave a secure job for a life of aimless wandering?” “What will people think?” “What will you do with your life after?”

Let me share with you a post I found sobering – the top 5 regrets of the dying:

Source: https://goo.gl/images/81mKQr

Yes, this is pretty sad stuff, but it’s also a good reminder to focus on the now and to stay true to yourself. If your passion is traveling, why not do it? We often set our own obstacles and convince ourselves we can’t surmount them, therefore something like traveling is just not feasible or appropriate right now. You may hate your job, but quitting it to travel sounds too risky – what if you get offered a great position in two years? Or you’ve got a family or partner that can’t join you or doesn’t support you going somewhere alone. Regardless of the reason, if you do decide to go on a journey, don’t look back or second-guess yourself.

Look, I left unsure of what to make of my life up until that point. I just knew what I was doing every day, waking up at 4:45 am to get ready and be at work by 7:00 am to perform a job I could care less about and impress people who viewed me as expendable. I knew I loved traveling and I hated limited myself to going somewhere two times a year. So I left. Just like that.

I came back after 4 months from a world tour of 13 countries, hauling a heavier Osprey on my back and a fuller heart. Above all, I realized the insignificance of what we trivialize in daily life (such as working too hard, pleasing others, comparing ourselves to impossible equals, etc.). I may not have figured out what I wanted to do next, but I was more certain than ever it wasn’t what I had been doing before. And maybe that clarity of mind of what you don’t want is an important step to figuring out what you do what.

And so, consider where you are in life and think if traveling is what you really want to do. You’ll find that justifying or rationalizing your thinking is a learned skill, and as humans, we are innately irrational – so don’t be afraid of letting your instincts drive your decisions to travel. You’ll be glad you did!

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​10 Do’s and Don’ts for a solo female traveler

IMG_8667Great Wall of China

Do stay in Airbnb’s or guest houses as part of someone’s family in their spare room. It’s the best way to meet people, get insider advice and recommendations about where to go, where to eat and what to avoid. Read reviews, or ask around, if you’re unsure this is where you want to stay. A great host can make a huge difference in your trip.

Do bring a bag of medicine to treat any digestive problems, allergies, pain/inflammation, nausea/vomiting and first aid. In my bag, no matter where I go, I always have the following: Pepto bismol, Imodium, Claritin, Dramamine, Ibuprofen, bandaids, antibiotics (such as a Z-pack), alcohol wipes, and antibacterial/antibiotic ointment such as Neosporin.

Do take group tours. While you have to be more patient and wait in lines, you can connect with really cool people you’d otherwise never meet. Plus, you will learn some really neat history about the place you are visiting.

Do travel alone. You probably won’t even be alone for long. People are more inclusive and friendly than you think. I have had amazing experiences with people I met in my accommodation, tour, beach or even on the street. I still keep in touch with many of them, thanks to social media, so whenever I’m in their home country, I give them a shout. You never know who you’ll meet! And for the times you are alone, it’s rewarding to be one with your thoughts and experiences, to reflect on everything you’ve witnessed and achieved.

Do share your location or hotel name with someone you know, whether locally or back home. It’s an effortless action that has no consequences, but in the rare possibility something might happen, at least your family will know where to look first… not to be ominous!

Jaipur palace and its brilliant colors 

Don’t go to weird or dangerous neighborhoods. I’m not saying only go to touristy places, but go with locals to places they often frequent and can vouch for its safety.

Don’t stay with shady or strange hosts. Read reviews beforehand and make sure the communication has been open and transparent. Listen to your gut. If it doesn’t feel right, get out. Your sense of safety and security isn’t worth savings a few bucks over.

Don’t wear opulent jewelry, shoes, bags and clothes (especially in second and third world countries). Hey, I love my diamonds, Valentino shoes and Chanel bags, but there’s a time and place to wear them, and often it’s not outside of your hometown or a ritzy night out. Be humble and simple, no need to draw unnecessary attention to yourself.

Don’t take your passport, valuables and all credit cards outside of hotel or leave in the car – make a copy of your passport or take a photo with your phone, and take only one major credit card with you (and keep cash on hand). And I feel it’s important to note to never leave valuables in your car. There are people who stalk and prey on tourists who feel their cars are safe storage spots for valuables. DON’T DO IT.

Don’t accept drinks from strangers. Just don’t. When you have no one holding you accountable, things can happen.

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Medical packing list for globetrotters

Traveling is a liberating and nourishing experience, especially if you’re in great physical and mental health. But what about the times when you’ll inevitably get food poisoning from munching on street food, seasickness on your diving voyage, or a headache and nausea from high altitude? I’ve learned the hard way as I’ve traveled the importance of being prepared and having basic medicines and first aid within easy reach. Obviously, everyone has different solutions and beliefs on treating aches and pains, but I say better safe than sorry. Here are the medical essentials I ALWAYS have in my carry-on, ready to administer to keep me as healthy as possible on a trip.

  1. Dramamine

    Combats: seasickness, nausea, vomiting and motion sickness.
    I wish I could say I’m a perfect traveler, flyer and ship passenger, but I’m not. I sometimes get motion sickness, especially on long, winding mountain roads. Dramamine comes in handy. Sometimes I take half of a Dramamine tablet to decrease its half-life. I also love taking Dramamine All-Day Less Drowsy on long haul flights, as it helps me sleep and stay relaxed (I’m an anxious flyer, and this is a great alternative to taking tranquilizers). Expect to sleep extra deep after you land, so if you are going to explore right off the flight, you’ll be sleep and cranky (maybe that last one is just me…). I find it helps with adjusting to a new time zone from its sleep-inducing effect.
  2. Benadryl Allergy Plus

    Combats: allergic reactions, seasonal allergies, sinus pressure, itchy bites/sunburn
    I really love this for multiple reasons: you can combat any seasonal allergies you get from the new place you’re at, AND you can treat a sudden allergic reaction you get from something you consumed or made contact with. Of course, if you’re breaking out in hives, seek medical attention at a clinic! Also, Benadryl, like many anti-histamines, can make you drowsy, so taking it before bedtime can have an added bonus on helping you sleep better.
  3. Ibuprofen (also known as Advil, Motrin, etc.)

    Combats: headaches, sore muscles, toothaches, menstrual cramps
    You never know when a headache may strike (ever hiked in 17,000 feet? Altitude changes can trigger some nasty headaches) or you get a fever (not necessarily from the flu) or you feel really sore after a hike or tumble. Having a non-steroidal anti-inflammatory medicine (read: non-narcotic) like Ibuprofen handy can help with all of that. Just be sure to read the label to understand the dosage and make sure you can take this; otherwise there are boat loads of pain relievers out there that will do the trick and work with your body.
  4. Pepto-Bismol
    Combats: indigestion, nausea, heartburn, upset stomach
    Good old Pepto, it really has your bases covered for most digestive problems in one pill (well, you’ll probably take more than one pill, but you catch my drift). When those leftovers you finished off begin to disagree with your stomach, or you’re feeling gassy from the last carb fest you had, or your esophagus feels like you swallowed a Carolina Reaper (read: hottest chili pepper in the world), then Pepto is a quick and easy go-to for almost immediate relief. The only thing is you might have to take multiple doses every couple of hours (reminder to read the label for dosing) for continued relief. Hopefully this puts the brakes on your stomach problems.
  5. Imodium

    Combats: diarrhea, gas, bloating, cramps
    No need to get embarrassed – you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t experience the runs at least once in your life. Honestly, nothing sucks more than getting diarrhea on vacation. You’re down for the count for at least a day usually, and you wonder if you’ll ever eat something normal again. I remember chuckling at the term “Delhi-Belly” before going to India, but in reality it was a sobering reminder of the realities of trying new foods or getting unlucky with a bad microbe that contaminates your meal. This can also be a literal lifesaver if you’re traveling alone and feel that urge to marry your bottom to the toilet seat…  Fret not, for Imodium is highly effective at putting a stop to diarrhea quickly. The key is to take it when you first get a symptom, so you don’t get dehydrated. However, if you do, fret not, because…
  6. Nuun Hydration Tablets
    Combats: dehydration
    So technically this isn’t a medicine, but I found it so useful. Let’s say you’re recovering from diarrhea, or you’re hiking long distances – this is your new best friend. It is chockfull of minerals, vitamins and electrolytes, and it doesn’t have sugar. I love the ones that R-E-I sells; I tried some when hiking in Myanmar and really liked the Strawberry Lemonade flavor (and there are 5 flavors to choose from, in case this isn’t something you like). It isn’t sweet, but it is zesty and refreshing, and most importantly, replenishing. Just pop one in a 16 oz. water bottle and let it dissolve before drinking.
  7. Tylenol Cold + Flu Day/Night Pack
    Combats: cold and flu symptoms, cough, fever, aches, congestion
    If you’r unlucky enough to catch a cold or flu on your trip (freezing AC in hot climate, anyone?? Or is it just me…), then taking something from home that you know helps alleviate your symptoms until it runs its course is really important. Not to mention, it will keep a fever or cough down that may lead to something more serious, requiring antibiotics or hospitalization. So I recommend bringing a medicine like this Tylenol pack that treats all sorts of symptoms, with both drowsy and non-drowsy versions to help you take it day and night. While I hope you stay healthy during your trip, keep this handy just in case.
  8. Compeed blister cushions

    Combats: blisters and small cuts
    Compeed is one of the best bandages on the market – it attaches to your skin and creates a nearly impenetrable barrier to allow your blister or cut to heal over several days.  I always have some in my purse handy to help my feet break in new shoes, recover from exploring a city all day or hiking, or cover up a boo-boo from one of my clumsy trips or tumbles. It happens. But you can barely feel pain coming from the problem area, because of how well-cushioned this bandage is. Great way to continue your trip without sacrificing cute new shoes or limping all the time. By the way, they come in several sizes and shapes to fit hard-to-reach spots.

So while it’s easy to remember to pack the essentials clothes, passport and money, don’t forget basic medicines and first aid too. You don’t think you’ll need it until you do. Not all pharmacies and hospitals speak English, depending where you are, so if you’re feeling ill and have to explain what you have to someone who doesn’t understand, you’ll be in a tough spot. Pack a small container of meds and enjoy your trip! What are some medicines you always bring with you?